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"Relic, don't leave!"

"Relic, don't leave. You are so talented and you would be so missed....." 

Ah yes, I remember those words well. 

That was on different writing site I belong to. I posted a story about leaving the site and I got a few messages from people telling me to stay. As a result, that's what I did...

A part of me wishes I didn't. It didn't help me much and I still see the same trolls mulling about with poison pens in what was once a paradise. The nasty in-fighting hasn't budged. 

In telling others about my departure, I was really looking for some kind of validation, but I discovered people got tired of it. 

Today, I've taken a more laid-back approach knowing these writing sites are no different than any other community. There will always be trouble-makers and trolls, just like anywhere else. So I came to a conclusion. 

I enjoyed writing and reading so I stayed and promised myself if I wanted to leave at any time, I wouldn't announce it. If the day comes when I'm not happy, I'll just leave for a while. If I want to come back, fine. If not, I'll abandon the site for as long as I want like so many others have. I could always come back in the distant future 

I realized that when it came to trolls or trouble-makers: no matter who it was that bothered me, there was one thing I could do that was more powerful than all the thunderous replies I could muster.....ignore them. I'm not responsible for their anger and there are no rules that say I must become angry in return. So I got away from long arguments--it's childish and it made me look bad--almost undependable to a degree.

So if this rings a bell with you, remember this: you signed up here to read and share. You're not going to like everything you read; you may not like the replies, and you may not like some of what is offered to you as a review. It's okay, move on. This is not life or death; you're not getting a salary for being here, and your survival in life does not depend on someone from cyberspace you've never met. 

Remember, you don't know who anyone is behind that screen. 

Anyway, do your best and enjoy being here while you can. Life is short. And in today's world, it may turn out to be shorter for you or a loved one faster than you anticipated.  

Hope this helps. :)

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Relic

I'm sure this will be edited soon. 

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Sparrowsong

Hello Relic...

Great message!

I feel the same...

People handle things differently...

​​ It's okay too, I think to let someone know you've got their back...

Anyway...

Thank you for sharing...

Hugs...

sparrowsong

 

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Relic

Thanks sparrowsong. 

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Relic

Thank you, Lauren. :)

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Tina

Nothing to add apart from I agree with you, Relic, and also with Sparrowsong's and Lauren's replies

Tina x

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Relic

Thank you, Tina. :)

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lodigiana

Writers like you are one of the reasons I stay on this site..I know exactly how you feel and yes whilst we dont ‘know’ people here most of us have a pretty good sense of those we feel are just wanting to do justice to their work rather than be critical for the sake of being critical..and you most certainly fall into the first catagory.If I have learnt anything  lately it is that tolerance is so much easier to live with than angst..I like what have said Relic and hope you find that peace that will let you carry on giving all the ‘good stuff’ but whatever you decide you will always carry with you our love and respect!! xxx
Lodigiana

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Relic

That's so kind of you, thanks, Lodigiana. :)

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Relic

Thanks, BP. :)

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Cherie Sumner

Hi Relic....You have given the best advice possible....and I live by the same philosophy that I am here to read and post my writings...and just ignore the negativity...i just use the site to keep all my poetry together...Of course we want feedback and to have input, but when some one tries to bring us down....that is where self preservation steps in and all that matters is we believe in our own work and it is why we share...I hope everyone on here reads this!  Thanks for sharing...Love n Hugs, Cherie xo

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Relic

Thank you for your thoughts, Cherie. :)  xo

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Relic

Thank you, Lisa.

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