"Relic, don't leave. You are so talented and you would be so missed....."
Ah yes, I remember those words well.
That was on different writing site I belong to. I posted a story about leaving the site and I got a few messages from people telling me to stay. As a result, that's what I did...
A part of me wishes I didn't. It didn't help me much and I still see the same trolls mulling about with poison pens in what was once a paradise. The nasty in-fighting hasn't budged.
In telling others about my departure, I was really looking for some kind of validation, but I discovered people got tired of it.
Today, I've taken a more laid-back approach knowing these writing sites are no different than any other community. There will always be trouble-makers and trolls, just like anywhere else. So I came to a conclusion.
I enjoyed writing and reading so I stayed and promised myself if I wanted to leave at any time, I wouldn't announce it. If the day comes when I'm not happy, I'll just leave for a while. If I want to come back, fine. If not, I'll abandon the site for as long as I want like so many others have. I could always come back in the distant future
I realized that when it came to trolls or trouble-makers: no matter who it was that bothered me, there was one thing I could do that was more powerful than all the thunderous replies I could muster.....ignore them. I'm not responsible for their anger and there are no rules that say I must become angry in return. So I got away from long arguments--it's childish and it made me look bad--almost undependable to a degree.
So if this rings a bell with you, remember this: you signed up here to read and share. You're not going to like everything you read; you may not like the replies, and you may not like some of what is offered to you as a review. It's okay, move on. This is not life or death; you're not getting a salary for being here, and your survival in life does not depend on someone from cyberspace you've never met.
Remember, you don't know who anyone is behind that screen.
Anyway, do your best and enjoy being here while you can. Life is short. And in today's world, it may turn out to be shorter for you or a loved one faster than you anticipated.
Hope this helps. :)