The idea of 'helping'

'You need work' she says thinking that I spend my free time on a phone, thinking that I don't care and am not even trying.

Little does she know I work my butt off to come even close to meeting expectations. 

Little does she know that not all brains function the same way. 

Little does she know that her method it not the only method, but it's a bad method. 

She thinks she's critiquing and 'helping'. No. 

Does helping end with a person feeling like crap about themselves. Does it leave them feeling stupid and like they are not trying hard enough?

Giving a person a heavy load on top on the already giant stressful pile of chains they are carrying around and not even blinking an eye or offering help, not my idea of a good seed  

I guess that's what the world has turned into