Silenced

Yes, we allow too much by trust in our parents during the early days, however ill-earned that trust was and yes, we remain silent not to hurt people (or get fired...) Again, simple words saying so much. Love your handle on things...

Wecan shake hands on this one too, only the 3 years of my 63 have been easy going hard work, I made a bad choice in parents (and my wife an even worse one), but we overcame 🎉

Yes, make it so - we work hard at it. In our case: on the wife's side there is a Jewish heritage on the father's side and het mother was in a Japanese concentration camp during WWII. My parents had some bas WWII experiences as well (liberated and a heavy German bombardment the next day, killing 3 friends of my father and destroying the neighbourhood. Their family history was also not too good and they were too different: my father was bourgois and my mother turned artist during her life (strongly feminist). I lost a twin brother in the womb and have never for a single second felt complete(ly) in this world (check out Vanished Twin Syndrome). But, yes, the wife and me, we save each other over and over again.