Poem -
when someone.....
When someone you love has Dementia..there's no Christmas presents
no more.
When someone you love has Dementia..there's scant trace of the one
you adore.
When someone you love has Dementia..there's a stranger who's taken
their place.
When someone you love has Dementia.. all that's left is a
familiar face...
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The brevity of this piece actually speaks volumes!! You have captured the whole essence of the sadness that is Dementia..great write Lodi!
Hello Lodigiana...
I wonder if you're on to something here...
You said in your comment that she was depressed most of her life...
I know Nutrition is an important factor too...
I'm very sorry that your family has been hit with this but it's good you're not alone and your love for her is always going to be there...
To hear her laugh I'm sure is a beautiful sound...
Beautiful and sad write!
Thank you for sharing...
Hugs...
sparrowsong
Hi Sparrowsong I am convinced that depression or possibly the medication to treat it had a bearing on this especially some years ago.Medication is mind altering to some degree so who knows??Thanks so much for your kind words and although it is sad we do still have some laughs and smiles and try to build good memories not sad ones. The Cosmo community is such a great bunch of compassionate,empathic people that it’s no wonder they all love the wonder and expression of poetry. Thank you Hun xxx
Lodigiana
Watching the essence of somebody disappear is one of the hardest things I have ever done and the simple heartbreaking truth of your poem tells it with empathic care. Thank you
Dear Nigel, my heart goes out to you- I know what a difficult expression of love this is to have to carry out but I hope that you have strong and loving arms around you to help you through the unhappy memories and help you celebrate the good ones. Thank you for reading and commenting- much appreciated. Peace and light always xxx
Lodigiana
What a lovely write, the few words that has such meaning, I know how dementia affects families from a carers point of view and it's truly a horrible, stealing disease I'm glad that you get the laughs and smiles count yourself very fortunate the love must be strong x
Thank you so much Wayne! Really really appreciate your very kind words! xx
Lodigiana
You're are very welcome! Your words change my thoughts so you're very welcome indeed ha x
Dementia is such a horrible disease, worse than death it's self, all we build, all we do, save and save, pay off our lives to the man and then we become empty inside, such a terrible ending, a sad way to leave this life.
Hi Gerard, It is an emotionally destructive illness not just for the sufferer but also the carers and loved ones- but - and I realise this isnt the same for everyone- there are still special moments that, although far and few between, are still there and the challenge is to forget everything you would have expected from the person you knew and look for the smaller consolations in this newly created person- Thats how my sister and I have dealt with this and although it IS sad knowing the person we knew so well is hidden inside we do find tiny elements of her still there and those are the things we now focus on ..and still managed to make her happy- for example we know she now loves creamy cakes and guess what she has in abundance when we visit?? ..I know its not the same for everyone though and thats a heartwrenching thing to experience and why I felt I needed to write what I have. Thank you for your words and sympathy- it is so much appreciated xxx
Lodigiana
Thanks for sharing.
My Dear Lodigiana,
Someone that I love so dear
No longer now will e'er be here
Their mind is in another place
Now, this "Sad Music", I must face
Love and Happy Thanksgiving,
Linda and Larry xxx
Dear Larry, what a touching and relevant piece you have written- it's sad yet beautiful- thank you and to you all across the Ocean have a wonderful Thanksgiving Day- I will raise my glass to you all! xx
Our Dear Lodigiana,
Yesterday, we raised our glasses in thanks for all beautiful people we have met over the past year on Cosmo. Since you are one of our favorites, we raised them twice.
Love,
Linda and Larry xxx
Thank you Linda and Larry ♥ and my glass is raised to you both with the hope that the coming year will bring you much peace, happiness and comforting acceptance. Many hugs and love to you both xxx
Lodigiana
Hi Lodigiana, it increases with age.., activities like swimming can delay the onset of dementia.. Any activities that can challenge the brain.. nutrition too..
it is really heartwrenching..
Thanks for sharing
Happy Thanksgiving
hugs
Hi Leah I agree -all mental /physical activity I believe helps- plus I think there is a suggestion that there is a correlation between clinical depression and dementia- Coffee might also help apparently !! But I think that maintaining a general positive attitude certainly can never do any harm. Hope you have had a great Thanksgiving and maybe thats a reminder that there is a lot we should always be grateful for..Thank you for your kind words and peace, light and hugs to you xxx
Lodigiana